Why is a Memphis man different?

It really does seem as if I am speaking about all men. Let me clarify. If you know anything about men, you realize that they are not all the same. Usually, based on their ages, you may be able to find a decent man worth spending time with. A young man who hasn't really experienced heartbreak is the best kind of man. If you find him and you two grow into a loving relationship with each other, you can have a great and fulfilling love affair. But, as soon as you lie, cheat, or hurt this man in anyway, he will never forget it. He may forgive you. Maybe. If he does, I guarantee you the cheating will begin.

On the other hand, the more likely situation is that he will dump you. This man has the mentality that "I never want to feel that pain again". So this man is now the abuser. The pain that he feels he now inflicts that pain on women. The most depraved men may even start to hate them. This man will never commit to you. He will only use you for his pleasure and will push you aside when he's finished with you.

Sometimes a man will grow up. He will become tired of the chase and desire to settle down. This usually happens around 40. You might get to move in. If you nag hard enough, you might get a ring.

Ok, right now this sounds like any typical man in the U.S. that is running from commitment. I agree. So, why is a Memphis man different. Easy...

A Memphis man doesn't grow through these "phases" of life. This is a way of life. A man is taught from a early age that whatever you can get from a woman, get it. There's a saying, "Even a snake is good for snakeskin shoes." It doesn't matter who you are, it's just about what he can get from you. He never grows up. He will be alone for the rest of his life, and in Memphis, it seems like that is just fine.

To Be Continued...

Cheating.

Cheating is only cheating when you're keeping secrets and telling lies. Also, it's not cheating if there is no commitment. So in order to avoid messy misunderstanding, a man may insist that you and him remain friends. He is single and will shout it from the rooftop. He will not acknowledge you in public. This is all to remind you and he are not exclusive. He can sleep with whomever he choose.

Does He Like Me?

Does it matter? That is the more relevant question. Even if the answer to the first question is yes, the answer to the second is always no. When he's desperate, he's always going to revert back into that hustler mentality.

To Be Continued...

Sex. Money.

About Me: Again, I only speak of Memphis, which is all I know.

To a man, sex is something to do. Fun. A way to relieve stress and relax. To a Memphis man, sex is a weapon. It is a way to get in your head so that he can control. A man that can control a woman's emotions can manipulate her to do anything he wants her to do. He can have a woman so addicted that she would risk all of her other relationships with family and friends for a fix.

Before long, He'll ask you for money. He's in a tight spot. He may even pay you back the first time. If you let him have the money, you may move up a couple steps. If you don't, he will become angry with you. He may lash out at you. He may stop calling and texting. He may seek revenge by hurting you emotionally by throwing a side relationship in your face.

To Be Continued...

First Meeting

About Me: I live in Memphis, so I can only speak for Memphis. Every woman that I know has dated a "Typical Memphis Man." He is the man that wants a woman to take care of him instead of him taking care of himself. He is the pimp/hustler that feels as if a woman is a means to an end. He runs from responsibility, unwilling to settle down with any woman until he finds that one that will support him completely and has the means to do so.

*This may not apply to every man in Memphis, but it probably does.*

First Meeting.
Meeting a man in Memphis that is worth the time and energy that it takes to get to know someone is not an easy task. But, of course you don't know that at first. That is because you never really get to know him.When you meet a man in Memphis, you are presented with the facade. Let the games begin.

And, his game is tight. He has intimate conversations with you. He'll text you all day and call you every night. All to make you feel as if your the only girl in the world. But he will never let you forget that you and him are "just friends". If anyone asks, there is nothing going on between you two.

To Be Continued...